I had an awesome day last Sunday with my housemates Shasha and Ja. Guess what, for the first time in my entire life, I went to the PWTC book fair. =pJa was fully utilising her time while waiting for us
Shasha was patiently waiting for the drawing to finish
I didn’t spend much, I only bought few exercise books for my tuition class and a ‘Solusi’ magazine edition 31 (RM1 cheaper than the normal price). And then Shasha and I went to this booth where there were 2 cartoonists offering their services to draw pictures of yourself. Hehe. So we waited there for almost 1 hour for our turns. Tired we were, but it was worth the waiting. =)
Enough about the book fair story, in today’s post I’d like to share an article in this month’s ‘Solusi’ magazine. It is written by Dato’ Dr Hj Mohd Fadzillah Kamsah. But first, I’d like to start off with a situation:
The perfect Aminah
Aminah is a very beautiful girl. Her voice could make all guys melt. Her body figure is everyman’s dream. She has a very good people skill that can influence everyone she meets. With her capability of managing her emotional and physical constraints, she is somewhat a typical ‘dream girl’ for almost everyman in this world.
Aminah has been in few love relationships but none of them worked out. She started to wonder, is she not beautiful enough to win a guy’s heart? Is she not having the quality of being a wife to someone? Why do the relationships she had never last?
What Aminah hasn’t realize all this while is, for her to be in a long lasting relationship (that brings to marriage, of course) is not just based on what the heart says. It is not as easy as just to grab any other guys that she met or that she has known for just less than 24 hours to be her lover.
The perfect Aminah never realize that it takes effort to find a guy that at least 60% aligns with her needs and interests. It takes hard work to figure out whether a guy really at least 50% understands her. It takes sincere prayer & ‘tawakkal’ to Allah to ‘give’ her a guy that would be strong enough to guide and prepare her for the afterlife.
Do Not Define It As Being Choosy Or Picky.
Well, for guys who are reading this, please do not get me wrong. I am just creating an ideal situation. It may also happen to a guy who hasn’t yet found the ONE to be with him for the rest of his life. Of course this rarely happens in daily lives. A perfect girl like Aminah can only be found in novels, I presume. But like I have said before, let’s think of an ideal perfect girl like Aminah. =)
Dato’ Dr thinks that there are few steps that we may want to do after we’re certain of our set of requirements that we’ve made. Of course, this does not only apply to those who think that they’re my ‘imiginary Aminah’, it applies to all, no matter what your gender is, how you look like and etc.
So here you go:
1. Pray fervently and exert accurately
It is Allah who decides who our mates are, but we have the right to make an effort to find one, with the permitted shari’a. Although we have prayed hard, it is still not granted, do not give up, as Prophet Muhammad once said: “Indeed a person’s prayer will not be spared from 3 things: the sins are forgiven, the prayer is granted in accordance with the request, and sometimes the prayer is not being not granted but being delayed instead”
2. Observe the people around you
Everyone will have mates that Allah has promised. Believe it or not, she or he might be the one who is actually close to you. Who has known you for years maybe? =)
3. Do not easily give up
Those who despair of finding a mate will start to make out many impressions. It could bad or good. Whatever it is, never stop having faith in Allah.
5. Love all the people around you
A loving person will have the power to attract other people to love him. Love as in love towards our own brothers & sisters in Islam are something that we need to practice in our daily lives. Do not focus in finding the mate here, but let’s hope that at least we are portraying what Islam wants us to portray..=)
6. Purify the heart
Do not let resentment and jealousy conquer your heart. Everything happens for reasons; things that are beyond us as a human being to foresee.
7. Always ready to meet your ‘mate’ at any time
Dress well everywhere you go. Possess good mannerism in everything you do. Always put trust in Allah.
8. Try to be the features of what a man and a woman would dream of
Improve all the weaknesses and try to be grateful and consistent with what that have been conferred by Allah.
“O Causer of the Causes; O He who opens the doors (to opportunities); O’ He who gives an answer to the call from wherever (He is called).” Ameen.